A few nights ago, Kate was explaining a situation that she encountered. She said a few times “What I WANTED to say was…” which made me realize how many times in a day, week, etc, that I say that phrase as well. Once I was on THAT thought train, it derailed on the corner of “why the fuck don’t I just say what I want?” with the cross street of “because you’re human and care about the feelings of others”.
Here’s the question that I posed to myself (and now to you, the three that read my blog), how often to you stop what you really want to say to be politically correct to the person that you’re speaking to?
Honestly, I probably don’t do this as much as I should. I have a really, really, (really) hard time at hiding my feelings. It doesn’t matter if I’m happy, sad, annoyed, indifferent. I wear my feelings on my sleeve, and sometimes (okay, most of the time) things fly out of my mouth before I realize what I’m saying or how they can be construed by others.
I really never mean my words to be offensive or mean or bossy. I’m sarcastic by nature, and pretty blunt, which is never a great combination. I also have about zero patience with people that aren’t under the age of 6, and that isn’t the best thing in the world, either. I often feel incredibly… volatile? I don’t know if that’s the exact word that I want, but I feel like a lot of situations get blown out of proportion because I feel the need to defend myself, my position, and while I can see another person’s point of view… in my head, they’re normally wrong.
It’s not a great personality trait to have, let me tell you.
But back to the question. Should what is said to other be censored? I understand that there are certain situations that require a different manner of speaking than others. And the way that I speak to my friends will greatly differ from the way that I speak to my boss.
But where do you draw the line?
Not only that, but where does the line blur and become gray? I work with a lot of my friends. There are people that I adore as friends, but not really as co-workers for one reason or another. There’s a sense of entitlement that flies around that makes me insane – but do I address it? No, because they’re co-workers, not friends…. at least when we’re in the work building.
However, SHOULD I be able to address it since technically they ARE my friends? Oy, I could go around and around with this one for days and never come up with the answer.
On a different note, should I have to watch what I say when I’m defending myself or explaining myself because the person I’m speaking to MIGHT take offense to it? Or should that person just be an adult and treat me the same way?
I’m really not trying to sound sassy or flippant or like a total bitch, which is how I feel this is coming out. I’m legitimately wondering if anyone else has these thoughts.